Build Her An Alter

Learn how to make Creativity feel cherished

Life can be loud and fast.

And we all have so much to do.

But when I start my day by meaningfully connecting with Creativity, it makes all the difference.

She is the foundation; the soil from which my heart and my dreams grow.

And when She and I are in a good place, the rest of my life seems to follow suit.

Creativity loves romance.

She loves it when I read Her poetry in the morning.

She loves when I take the time to write Her little love notes.

She smiles when I burn sage or palo santo.

These gestures started slow, at first with just my morning coffee and a rose quartz gem. Over time, She shared new rituals that She enjoys.

Each of us will have a slightly different relationship with Creativity.

For example: I refer to Creativity as a "Her" and capitalize Her name. You might use the pronouns he/him, or they/them, or even it. You might even have a nickname for Creativity that's unique to you.

Whatever you choose, it’s important to listen and pay attention to Her needs and desires.

And it’s crucial to make sure She feels welcomed.

Welcoming Creativity with a Love Altar

One of my favourite ways to ensure Creativity feels welcomed is by building a dedicated Love Altar for Her.

This can be simple. You can start with one single item: a book, a crystal, a piece of paper with a few words on it.

Then, slowly, as you and Creativity spend more time together and you learn more about Her likes and desires, you can add more elements.

The point here is to make Her feel welcomed and desired. You want it to be clear that you have space for Her in your life and that you love having Her close.

When She is confident that you want to spend more quality time with Her, She will trust you and bless your life in infinite ways.

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This Week’s Video Lesson:

This week, I share a tour of the Love Altar I made for Creativity in my home.

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This Week’s Date Idea:

Pick one place in your home and ask yourself:

How could I make this space more welcoming to Creativity?

You can start slowly and add one or two small elements at first.

Here are a few ideas of what you could add to your altar to get you started:

• A crystal or a gem

• A book you really love

• A photo that brings you joy

• A vibrant piece of art

• A book of poetry or a written quote

• Incense, sage, or palo santo

• Something light or playful that brings a smile to your face

• A photo of you as a child, as a reminder to you to be gentle with yourself

Make this Love Altar as yummy as you can, one element at a time.

Remember to go slow, and to have fun.

This Week’s Journal Prompt:

Take some time this week to explore your beliefs around romance.

1. When in your life were you the most romantic? Describe what your life was like at the time. How does it feel to look back at this period in your life? (PS: if you haven’t had a romantic period in your life, you can imagine a scenario in the future.)

2. Do you make time for romance in your schedule? Ask yourself if there are any events or activities in your calendar with a romantic quality to them (including solo time). Consider if you’re happy with the balance, or if you need a bit more time for romance.

3. Are you holding on to any ideas or stories about romance are in need of an upgrade? This includes stories from culture, family, or personal experiences that have shaped your understanding of what romance “should” look like. How might these narratives be adjusted to better suit your relationship with Creativity?

This Week’s Journaling Music:

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Community Support Needed:

Are you enjoying this new Dating Creativity series?

Got any specific dating questions you’d like me to tackle in future posts?

If so, I’d love to hear them. Reply to this email or share in the comments. I will do my best to answer as many as I can.

Big love,

D