I lost myself in the last two weeks of June. I was working incredibly hard for the previous 2 months, and then fell off of my most important routines and rituals.
Keeping up my routines and rituals is key to my mental health and success. I am always at some point inconsistent with my routines, and if I’m not careful in those moments when my consistency falters, I can fall hard. Often that results in losing touch with my support systems, and thereby feeling a million miles away from everyone.
It took me a while but I’m back. And I’m here to say:
We ALL fall at some point.
It’s inevitable.
And since I know that some point in the future I will fall again, my focus now is on learning as much as I can so that next time I fall smarter. This will also help me fall less often and bounce back faster.
Here are a few questions I ask myself to help me be more supportive and loving:
Were there any consistent triggers that activated the fall?
Was I pushing too hard / burning out?
Was I having fun?
Was I going too slow / have a lack of momentum?
Was I doing this for someone else? e.g. people pleasing
Was I ignoring a key part of my life? (health, family, finances)
Was I bypassing or finding a clever excuse to ignore my desires?
Was I making the time to really listen to my heart?
By taking the time to honestly reflect on these questions, I can learn and lovingly begin again. When the next fall inevitably comes, I’ll fall smarter.
Do you have any tips that help you bounce back from a fall? If so, please share them in the comments or send me a direct message. I’d love to know.
Big love,
D
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